Facing, managing and processing ridicule is a daunting task for perfectionists. I personally continue to struggle with the fear of ridicule especially during low points in my life. There was a time where I would interpret the timidest constructive criticism and any minor critique as a scathing attack against my character.
I used to believe that the best way of managing ridicule was to fight back as soon as I felt even the slightest sense that I was about to hear or see something I didn’t want to.
I was aggressive. Fighting back wasn’t enough — I was compelled to counter ridicule with ferocity. “Don’t avoid the ridicule” I would tell myself, “attack it with the same ferocity with which it attacks your own soul!” (My internal dialogue can be a bit blustery)
We feel defensive because we direct so much time and effort toward creating the”perfect” version of our self, so when any one even makes the slightest hint that we’re not perfect we feel like the walls are caving in on us. We tell ourselves “I’m not the problem, it’s the world that sucks!”
Well, that’s simply not the case. I recommend we do our selves a favor. Let’s stop trying to be perfect and let’s start being happy with being good enough.
Stop being so hard on yourself!
There are so many people in your life who already recognize how amazing you are. Why do we continually try to please the people who will never believe we are amazing?
Let’s stop wasting time worrying about the opinions of people who themselves are incapable of being happy.
Our idea of perfection is a fantasy. I’m not perfect and I never will be.
I’m happy now.
That’s good enough for me.
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